Tuesday, 19 August 2014

THE RULE OF 5

THE RULE OF 5
by John Maxwell
Ask most people about their company’s mission statement, and you’ll receive a blank stare. It’s probably hanging on the wall somewhere, but no one even realizes it’s there. Pausing to consider the organization’s mission may help to orient a leadership team. However, in terms of day-to-day operations, the organization’s stated purpose is practically worthless.

Leaders should quit agonizing over the wording of an abstract mission statement that almost no one will read and that will have almost zero impact on their people. Instead, they should concentrate their efforts on developing and following a “Rule of 5” for their company.

What’s the Rule of 5?

Picture a tree in your backyard that needs to be cut down. If you grab an ax and take five good swings at the tree each day, eventually you will chop it down. It may take a month to fell a small tree, while a big tree may take years to topple. The size of the tree isn’t the issue; the real question is whether or not you diligently take five swings at it every day.

For leaders, a primary challenge is to identify the five activities most essential to success, and then to practice them daily. The Rule of 5 doesn’t ask: “What are the five things I would like to do.” That’s a question related to passion. Nor does it ask: “What are five things I should like to do? That sort of inquiry uncovers your values. Rather, the Rule of 5 asks: “What are the five things I must like to do in order to be successful?” Posing this question cuts to the heart of the daily behaviors necessary to win in your chosen profession.

For example, to excel as an author, there are five things that must happen each day:

Reading
Thinking
Filing good material
Asking questions
Writing
If someone has raw talent as a writer, and practices these activities long enough, they’ll eventually find an audience for their work.

The Rule of 5 is more tangible, behavioral, and measurable than a mission statement. At the end of the day, you can review the Rule of 5 and immediately assess whether or not you have followed it. Ultimately, your organizational culture will be dictated far more by the things you do daily than by the mission statement you post on your walls or website homepage.

Exercise to Consider
Over the next week, carve out time to consider the five activities most essential to your success. Use them to create your own Rule of 5. Then, for the next month, take five minutes in the morning, and another five minutes at the end of the day, to review your Rule of 5. This simple exercise will sharpen your focus and speed your progress toward success.

Will you start on your own today?

Thursday, 14 August 2014

YOU KNOW ME?

A few months ago, I went on an outing with the Meaningful Seeds -these are the children of the members of the Meaning Men and Meaningful Women groups ( you can ask more on that later. And I am sure you will believe me if I tell you that we had a meaningful outing –children are really wonderful.

Part of the fun we had was games. Some of the children came with different games. There was this particular game that one of them brought –“Yunomi”. Sounds funny, right? The game can be played between 2 or more persons who are supposed to be friends e.g. spouses, siblings, class mates’ e.t.c.

The Oxford Advanced Learner’s Dictionary defines a friend as “a person YOU KNOW VERY WELL and like, and who is not usually a member of your family”. Note the capitalised words.

As many of us expect, a friend is someone you believe should be there for you when the need arises –a friend in need, is a friend indeed. I recently came across a quote: “The fastest way to find out if someone is really your friend is to tell them you’re broke”, (laughs).

Well, the issue is not necessarily about asking someone for money. But rather about the question “you call me your friend, do you know me?”

I was chatting with a senior friend and mentor who left the country some years ago and he made the statement “I know you very well, though I left the shores of Naija for long”. Hmmmm.….okay,  I think he does.

Back to the capitalised words in the definition. How many of the people you call your friends do YOU KNOW VERY WELL? Your spouse inclusive? And how many of your friends can really so much of you that they know? Likes? Dislikes? Best this? Best that? E.t.c.

I guess it won’t be a bad idea to take time out to know to really know your friends; it can make your life meaningful…

Now ask your friend "Do you know me?"

Wednesday, 13 August 2014

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SILENCE IS GOLDEN!

10 Times You're Better Off Saying Nothing At All

1.    When the other side in a negotiation starts debating against itself.
Often your best move in that situation is to keep your mouth shut and simply stay out of their way.

2. When you've asked a question: wait for an answer

3. When the other side misunderstands (and you don't have a duty to talk).
You don't always have an obligation to correct someone else's mistakes.

4. When you don't have any idea what you're talking about.
You never have to fill a silence, especially when you don't have anything useful to fill it with. (In those cases, it's true: Everything you say may well in fact be used against you.)

5. When you need someone else to get the credit.
As President Harry S. Truman once said, you can accomplish just about anything if you don't care who gets the credit. Sometimes, that means staying quiet just long enough for someone else to think of your solution and propose it as his or her own.

6. When you are bragging, as opposed to sharing.

7. When your comment is more about you than the other person.

8. When you want someone else to grow.
Instead of leaping forward to answer a thoughtful question that you know the answer to, sometimes it makes sense to hold back and let others figure it out.

9. When you are clearly boring people.
Most of us can tell when we're holding court for an audience that simply couldn't care less. In that case, cut it short, wrap things up, and stop talking.

10. When you begin a speech.
Your silence holds your audience in suspense, in anticipation of your next utterance....

Source: yahoo.com

'SEGUN 'SONOWO
Meaningful Living

Wednesday, 6 August 2014

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YOU'VE GOT ALL IT TAKES

(Adapted from a post by michael@michaelolafusi.com)

Whatever it is you want to become you have got all it takes to become.

Whenever you tell yourself that you can't achieve a desired goal for whatever reason, logical or emotional, you are cheating yourself.

You are like a commercial farmer and you have got the tractor in you already, every other tool is an add-on -cultivators, tillers, planters, harrows, e.t.c.

The only thing that can prevent you from achieving your goal is YOU, not the lack of anything.

It's right to give all you've got to get what you truly want. Sometimes all it takes is all you've got and we all know that an inner fire can't be quenched as long as the host keeps fanning it.

Nothing is impossible to a determined man. All he needs is already within him and determination ensures that he finds and harnesses them.

So whatever it is you really want to be, go after it because you've got all it takes.

And remember that sometimes it will take all you've got, but if it's your true passion it will always be worth it.

God will never bring into your life whatever is impossible for you; with God all things are possible.
Do make your life Meaningful!

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'Segun 'Sonowo
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(Meaningful Living)

Thursday, 24 July 2014

YOU ARE A GENIUS

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YOU ARE A GENIUS!

"Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid." That's probably the most famous quote by Albert Einstein, a man whose name has become a synonym for high intelligence. And he is saying 'you are a genius'.

Though none of us sees himself/herself as a moron, most of us do not actually see him/ her self as a genius. When we make the classifications in our minds, using the common criteria, we are sure that we are just a regular guy/girl. That there is nothing significantly special about us. But we are wrong and that quote by Albert Einstein explains it all.

As sarcastic as it sounds, it's also true: The unique thing about everyone of us is that we are each unique. There is no average man. It's only when we group everyone together and divide by a singular criterion that we come up with the notion of seeing some as average, some as below average and a few as geniuses.
The educational system judges by book knowledge and classifies the egg-head as a genius.
The corporate world judges by revenue and classifies the guy who is able to generate an unusual amount of it as a genius.
The political world judges by followership and classifies the folks with the largest followership as geniuses.
But these systems of classification are wrong, they are like judging a fish by its ability to climb a tree.
That's why the book genius is rarely a political genius.
Unfortunately, we have only few famous classification criteria. Some of us are geniuses at things people aren't aware of.
Within some of us lies a new field of study, a new kind of sport, an unusual invention, and a new criterion for detecting geniuses.

And like the fish we need to find our own pool.
We need to stop trying to climb a tree.
We need to stop accepting the labels the society puts on us.
We need to figure out our special ability and max it out.
We need to start seeing ourselves as a genius.
It doesn't matter if no one thinks there's something significantly special about us. What matters is that there's definitely something, significant or not, special about each one of us. Whether we've discovered it or not. But when we discover it, we should make it significant. We should give it a front row in our lives' procession.
We should let our lights shine.

Everyday of your life you should never consider someone else better than you, you shouldn't let anyone or group of people make you feel less, you shouldn't let anyone judge you by a wrong criterion, you shouldn't let anyone treat you like trash, you should stand up with shoulders high and chest out anywhere because you, my friend, are a genius.

Courtesy: michael@olafusimichael.com

Challenge: Go and discover your inner Einstein -YOU  ARE A MEANINGFUL GENIUS!!!!

Tuesday, 22 July 2014

FINDING YOUR INNER GENIUS

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FINDING YOUR INNER GENIUS

There is only one way to finding your inner genius -- by working yourself hard, far and wide.

We are like diamonds, our beauty can only shine through cuttings and being hammered. The finest diamond is simply the one with the finest cutting, a well hammered diamond.

If we don't stretch ourselves we will never discover our inner genius, the one thing we can have an absolute advantage in.

But why do you need to work HARD, FAR and WIDE to discover your inner genius?

1. Why Hard?
Working hard on anything leads to one of 3 outcomes: you give in, you give up or you keep screaming game on!
You give in when you reach a point where your performance begins to degrade severely, more effort from you yields negative result (negative progress), and you decide to stop completely.
You give up when progress is painfully slow and you are sure that you don't want to bear that pain anymore.
And it's game on when every increase in difficulty amazingly brings about an enjoyable increase in your performance. Like you are playing your favourite game. You see everything as a pleasant challenge. And that's where your inner genius lies. Unfortunately, you'll never know for sure till you push really hard and find yourself in an unending trend along one of those 3 outcomes.

2. Why Far?
To be sure that the state you are in is a permanent one, you'll need to go very far. There are some activities you'll engage in that will be daunting at first and you will want to give up but as you persevere it suddenly becomes game on. And there are still some others that seem pleasurable in the beginning but becomes unbearably boring after some time and you give in. So the distance matters. You need to go far.

3. Why Wide?
Obviously, you will enjoy and go far in most of the activities you excel at. But it's only in your inner genius that you will go as wide as possible.
Many people enjoy singing and attempt to sing all songs, but only a few go wide (and wild) with singing. Only those whose inner genius is singing will give up everything to pursue a career in singing. They are the only ones who will attempt ceaselessly to sing before everyone. They go wide with it. And that's what seals a talent or ability as your core genius.
But you will never know how much you love an activity or how much you are willing to give up for a talent if you don't work hard at it and go far into it.

And these are why you need to work hard, far and wide to discover your inner genius.

Courtesy: michael@olafusimichael.com

And it's only when you find your inner genius that you can make your life truly Meaningful!

Saturday, 19 July 2014

STOP AND SMELL THE ROSES

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STOP AND SMELL THE ROSES

Hope you find some Meaningful Thoughts here...
William and Susan were both 22 years old when they married in 1995. William worked for a national telecommunications company and Susan was a teacher at a local school. Soon after their honeymoon William got a pleasant surprise from his employer. He was promoted to a regional director, a position of his dreams.

“Honey I have some very good news to share with you. Our lives will never be the same again.” William announced as he opened the kitchen door.
“Please stop cooking, go and take a quick shower and dress up. We have to go out and celebrate.” William continued.

“What is it? Please tell me.” Susan enquired with great excitement.

​There was joy in the house when William shared the good news with his wife. But little did they know that their celebration marked the beginning of the end of happy days in their marriage.

​The demands of the new job took a toll on William and Susan’s marriage. William travelled for meetings intensively and spent more time at the office. Week after week Susan stayed home alone bored and deeply frustrated. It seemed William was now married to his job. On several occasions Susan communicated her concerns to William but William would always dismiss her concerns by saying, “honey soon I will be at the top of the ladder and we will have all the time in the world to do all the things you desire and visit all the beautiful places in the world. With this kind of money I will retire early. Please I need your support not your constant complaining. Remember I am doing this for us. I am doing what any loving husband would do.”

With each passing day William and Susan grew further apart. The higher William climbed the corporate ladder, they more time he spent away from home and the worse their marriage became. Ten years later William had a very good paying job, a very frustrated and unsatisfied wife and a marriage at the verge of collapse.

​Stop and smell the roses, is a reminder that each of us need to occasionally stop the mad rush to enjoy life with the people we love. The greatest gift you can give your spouse is you. You can give your spouse your entire paycheck. You can buy your spouse the house or car of their dreams. You can send your spouse on a world tour of their favorite places. You can buy your spouse everything they have ever dreamed of. Yes, you can give your spouse all that if you have the means, but the greatest gift you can give your spouse is you. Your presence is your wife’s greatest present. Yes, it is good and commendable to work hard to provide for your family. But, regardless of how busy you are; stop and smell the roses. Make time to shut out the world, switch off the phone, turn off the TV, find a baby sitter and spend quality uninterrupted time with your spouse. Your spouse left everything to be with you. Everything you give your spouse means nothing if your spouse cannot enjoy them together with you. Regardless of how hard you work; give your spouse your time, your affection and your attention.

​"Enjoy life with the woman/man whom you love all the days of your fleeting life which He has given to you under the sun; for this is your reward in life and in your toil in which you have labored under the sun." Ecclesiastes 9:9

​One Tuesday afternoon, while William was out of town, he received a call that Susan had been involved in a fatal accident on the way home from work. William’s world collapsed in a moment. William’s plan for a dream retirement with his wife came to nothing. William’s plans to take Susan on a world tour of her dream places crumbled. William was filled with indescribable regret. Out of guilt William quit his job but it was too late. He blamed himself for not listening to Susan. At Susan’s funeral, chocked with emotion, William gave a one-sentence speech. He stood up, wiped his tears, cleared his voice and remarked; “My friends, life is short, regardless of how busy you are, stop and smell the roses with the ones you love.” He staggered backward, threw himself onto the seat and cried uncontrollably.

Stop and Smell the Roses!

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