9 WAYS TO AVOID CONFLICT AT WORK

Psychological climate in the team is one of the main criteria to which many job seekers pay attention when choosing the place of work. 

However, if financial and other details relating to the new position can be discussed during the preliminary conversation with the management or at the interview stage, the relationship of colleagues and working environment can be assessed only after a certain time. How to behave in the conflict situations and what to do in order to improve relations with other employees?

1.       Change your attitude to the conflict

It is impossible to live life without contradictions and disputes. Work is a place where people spend a lot of time, so such conflicts occur quite often. However, sometimes these disagreements can be useful - emotional discharge helps to find a common solution of the problem and makes change a mind about a colleague and listen to someone else's point of view.

However, it should be noted that too frequent elucidation of relations may cause constant stress and tense atmosphere in the team. Note also whether the management is trying to understand the circumstances and offer solutions to the problem.

2.       Resolve a conflict at an early stage

Perhaps you've already noticed the dissatisfaction of an employee with your work or caustic remarks in your side? Try to figure out what was the reason for such a situation until the moment the petty quarrel turns into a conflict with the rapid clarifying of the relationships. Do not be afraid to talk to a colleague - probably during the dialogue you will learn how to find a compromise in order such circumstances will not be repeated in the future. If the reason for disagreement lies not in the personal motives, it is likely the problem will be solved peacefully.

3.       Keep the communication to a minimum

If you have a bad relationship or a person brings unpleasant emotions to you, try to keep contact with such a worker to a minimum. However, if you do occasionally have to deal with a colleague and to clarify some working moments, try to be in a positive attitude and keep a neutral tone in the conversation - it will help keep things under control and properly manage your emotions.

4.       Analyze your own behavior

Try to thoroughly analyze your own behavior in the team and put yourself in the place of your colleagues. This way you will understand who the main culprit for such situations is and what factors most often provoke conflicts in the workplace. Consider the comments of other co-workers - if they are true and adequate, maybe it is worth listening to them and to improve relations in such a way?

5.       Choose a neutral position

It is quite often situation in a working environment - disagreement between two staff members, each of whom is looking for support in other colleagues. Nevertheless, it is better to stand aside and take a neutral position. You should not get involved in someone else’s conflict and gossips not to spoil your own professional reputation. This behavior is the most correct, especially if you’ve just started working in the company or going through the probationary period.

6.       Solve conflicts independently

Try to analyze your own situation independently but at the same time ensure that other employees do not affect the decision of a question. Do not carry the disagreements to the public, but rather try to understand the conflict without the participation of other team members. In the case if you cannot find a common language, offer a colleague an alternative variant - for example, ask for help from your chief with whom you will be able to discuss this issue. Think carefully about your arguments and how you explain and defend your position.

7.       Control your statements

No matter what was the main reason of your quarrel - mistakes in the work process or just incompatibility of characters - in any case it is necessary to control your emotions and expressions. Transformation of the conflict into the discussion of personal qualities of the colleague is not the best quality of employee. Pay attention to the initial subject of the dispute rather than try to hurt a worker by negative comments and statements.

8.       Be able to admit mistakes

If in the course of the dispute it was suddenly found out that you were wrong, do not be afraid to admit your mistake and apologize to a colleague. Such a behavior will be displayed on your relationship positively and help prevent similar conflicts in the future.

The ability to find compromises in difficult situations and listen to the views and ideas of other employees is one of the main qualities of a true professional.

9.       Make your conclusions

Despite the fact that conflicts are inevitable, you should remember that they should not interfere with a comfortable work and be a constant source of stress. If the tense working atmosphere is continuous, but the desire to improve relations do not bring tangible results and the management makes no attempt to resolve the problem, think whether you are satisfied with this state of affairs and whether you will be able to perform your job responsibilities effectively in the future.

(Source: job.naij.com)

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The Unstoppable Power of Small Steps

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THE UNSTOPPABLE POWER OF SMALL STEPS

One of the great tragedies is to dream but take no action, or ineffective action, to make your dream come true. To die
with your dreams and aspirations still inside you, waiting for another time, another day, or a "big break" is the greatest of failures. As I get older, I'm learning that we cannot wait!

Literally everything you see and every tool you use, even the chair you're sitting on, began as nothing but thought.
Someone had an idea for a chair. Henry Ford had an idea that cars could be in every garage. Your computer began as
an idea and a series of huge, crude devices in the 1940's.
The computer you are using right now began as someone's idea that they could manufacture and sell computers better, faster and cheaper than anyone else.

Everything starts with an idea. It always has, and always will. The life you are now living is the result of all your thoughts and decisions to this point. Your future will be--
it must and can only be--what you imagine for yourself.

Many people have observed that "ideas are things." Thoughts and words have the power to move us, to change us, and to become living, breathing, tangible things! In a sense, our world is made up of nothing but thoughts and words!

But there is a gulf between an idea and its fulfillment.  
Most "things" are actually still-born and never come to fruition because we fail to span the gulf between potential and reality. That gap can only be bridged with daily action.

How many times have you thought of an invention or process that could be worth a fortune, done nothing about it, and then found that same (or a similar) product for sale a few months later? We've all had that experience. Someone got rich off "your" idea and the difference is that they took specific, concrete ACTION. Their product is in the store, making money, and your idea is still inside you, accomplishing little. Don't let that happen again!

Here are some basics, some essentials to make your dreams come true:

1.  Plan your days.  Every evening, plan the following day.
First thing in the morning, plot your priorities. Leaders have always done this! This is not new!  But only about 4% of the population does it. Write down your priorities and choose your daily actions. In advance. Every day.

2.  Keep a list of big things. On your desk or on the dashboard of your car, keep a list of your most important projects, goals and commitments. Keep it where you see it, and read it, every day. Keep it current. What we think
about, gets done.

3.  Keep a list of small things. Keep a list of 5-minute tasks, phone calls or notes that you can do any place, any time. When you wait for an appointment, make that call.
When you have a minute, send a note or read a few pages.
Always know "what's next" and take lots of small, effective actions, every single day.

4.  Take magnificent care of yourself! Healthy, happy, energetic people get the most done. It takes time and energy to achieve greatness. If you "don't have time", or are "too tired" or too distracted or too busy with small things, you will not achieve your dreams. Take care of yourself. Manage your life.

We've all heard the phrase, "Rome wasn't built in a day."
We know that "a journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step," and we've heard the Serenity Prayer that God,
"Give me the courage to change the things I can."

You cannot often achieve great things over-night because in general, human beings do not do "big" things. We do little things. We get up, we go to work. We hug our loved ones and make phone calls. We check email, exercise and fix dinner.
We do little things! Highly successful people simply do the right little things, at the right time, in the right way--and they do lots of them.

If you would achieve great things, do little things and pile them one on top of another, until you reach the stars.
Start today.
(Source: www.philhumbert.com)

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